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John
John May 27

We to visit my mom yesterday and she text me this am asking me to look around for her cig vape. I check my sons room and find two. Ones a cig and ones a weed pen. She has her medical card. My 15 yr old stole her cig pen and my 11 yr old found the weed pen in her room some months ago and hid it to retrieve it to give to his brother. He knew the 14 ur old had vaped before. Thought we were past this. My 17 yr old knew about it. He hit both pens and kept the secret. I am floored. My 11 yr old did not hit the pond thankfully. I have discussed drugs with my kids and why not to do them. I used my past as an example of why not to. I've kept them informed of how dangerous it is these days with so much being laced with fentenyl. The path that just doing weed can lead you down, etc. My oldest said he was just going to throw them away and I explained that that's worse because obviously a problem still exists. What kind of pushimnet do you dish out for this. They stole from their own grandmother. I explained that some secrets are ok to keep between brothers but not these kinds. Not to mention I had to tell there dad and we don't coparerent very well. We use an app court ordered. I'm scared that he can revoke my time with kids. My mom's upset because they didn't need to know she used weed for medical reasons. She has severe pain and it was not out in the open. Any help is appreciated.


Olli Stor
Olli Stor May 27
Well apology to grandma would be first order of business.

Then I would tell them I expect them to make better choices and they will have to prove to me that they are making better choices before I let them have any privileges.

They know what they did, they can figure out a way to do better.
Jeremy Blake
Jeremy Blake May 27
It might be helpful to have a calm and honest conversation with your kids about the consequences of their actions and the importance of respecting others' belongings and privacy.
As for punishment, it's important to find a balance between consequences and constructive guidance. Maybe consider grounding, loss of privileges, or extra talks about the risks of vaping and drug use.
Remember, you're not alone in dealing with this. Take care of yourself, and know you're doing your best in a difficult situation.
And hey, I recently switched to vaping myself and got an esix9. It's been a positive change for me, but I also recognize the importance of being mindful of the impact of vaping on family and health.