can you write out the exact code so i can just cut and paste and also can you label which htaccess file because i have 2 difference ones with redirects. I dont want to make mistakes so just use the code above and put yours in there please where i can just copy and paste.

The problem is with this redirect, for example if you use FB connect from your join page, and then try to open with index page (keep in mind you're logged in) it will again redirect you to the sign-in page

Well I want the signup page as the index page because I want the blog to be open to guest. I don't want thr site to be closed left. How do i fix this. I took off the redirect now.

5.png= front page now- open blog page which i want. Open for guest.
j.png= Signin page i want as the index page when people go to nivasocial.com but i want facebook connect to work properly. Facebook connect works perfect without the redirect.

in admin pages drag the signup page to the front well make it the landing page  

You will need to do that via custom developed plugin. As I noted earlier this is a custom code modification. 

I had someone program it. It works fine now

Alright, thanks for letting us know.