First off let me make it clear I DON'T WANT TO DO MANUAL UPDATE. Whenever I do this (even while following the instructions) I screw something up.
Okay so I have cron jobs set up properly and the link is there to auto update my site but here is the problem.
When I go to update I am asked for FTP details... I don't use FTP; I use SFTP (or SSH) because I am on a VPS. I do have an FTP user is my control panel that I installed so I tried that and no luck.
All it says is
"Invalid FTP attributes! Provided user doesn't have permissions to overwrite files."