yes sure, ive just re-enabled arrowchat and before i went to bed there was 15 members online, and my server load went from an average of 0.24 to an average of 0.53 in the space of just 7 hours.

also do you know if you can disable logging in arrowchat?

so instead of helping me and giving me an example to run off they at least told me what to edit they said to properly configure apache and/or mod_fcgid.however I dont know exactly what gets edited with that and I do not know how to disable logging  never thought about it

logging would require a lot of writing to files which im sure adds to the page loading/performance.

apache config file is usually located > etc/conf/httpd.conf

php config file is usually located > usr/lib/php.ini

mysql config is usually located > etc/my.cnf

search and read, https://www.google.co.uk/search?num=20&hl=en&safe=active&q=VPS+OPTIMIzATION

well since installing nginx my sites performance has risen a lot only really need a few things done and really arrowchat is my only main issue so I think it only right I give this some time and try and figure out how to make it work better for myself and others it is a great product but really could use some better suppoirt other than being told "oh we don't do that you will have to edit this file" and not really say what kind of configuration to use and thing is I had to ask for just that info that small piece of information should have been pre-listed for people 

i remember ready on their website that none of their files are minified which also means they are not compressed, this alone could help reduce server load

ok so for now I have dumped the arrowchat and after a little help from a friend figuring everything out here is the final result I will of course continue working on improving this but for now http://gtmetrix.com/reports/wickednation.net/zCGT6uHB

a major improvement :)

a major improvement :)