1. Can I turn off the auto-friending feature?

Let's say I just want both people to receive the private message but not automatically become friends. Is it possible?

2. Can I add more than just "gender" to the search drop-down menu?

I would like both "gender" as well as "sexuality" (example: so that a lesbian woman can also find other lesbian women and not waste her time swiping on heterosexual women).